Sex, a definite important part of most marriages and relationships, is one of the main ingredients of a happy and long lasting married life. When it comes to certain sexual practices, differences can arise, which should be normal since not everybody enjoys the same foreplay, and sexual treats.
Fellatio is something that plenty of men enjoy because it dam feels so good receiving it! But the problem is that not all women like to perform it, or at least not very often. First off, before going deeper in the topic let me tell you guys that today’s post is not about how to send your beloved to heaven with blow jobs. No, I am not going to tell you how to do it, neither giving any very crude description of it because I know you all girls have master’s degree and PhD in it so you all are experts.
today I am addressing the reasons why some women do not like giving blow jobs.
Many Men, including my own husband, complain many times about not receiving enough oral sexual acts.
A few years back, while talking with someone, a guy of course, there was a part of the conversation that was about sex in general. That same person thereafter came to mention oral pleasure, and said to me how much he loved receiving it. As he enjoyed it that much, the idea popped into my head to ask if he had to chose between genital to genital intercourse and orals which one will the the winner? His reply surprised me a lot; in my mind, I thought the answer was going to be genital to genital sexual intimacy. Oh no! His reply was oral sex; as according to him the level and the quality of pleasure given that way outweighs the genital enjoyment. So a man like him who does not receive oral seems, in my views, not completely satisfied sexually speaking.
When asking my friend, Nathalie, why she does not like fellatio, she admits that although sexual intimacy with her husband is very enjoyable, when it comes to giving oral, she is not that eager to give him that kind of happiness. As a consequence, every possible trick is used to avoid that type of sexual practice. When asked about any particular reason motivating her behavior, Nathalie confesses that sperm smell makes her feel nauseous. Genital to genital it is still ok for her, as it is not only at the end of the intercourse that the ejaculate occurs and but her head is also not down there. As that occurs mostly at night time the fact that she quickly falls asleep makes semen odor not being an issue for Nathalie. If it is during the day she goes shortly after to the bathroom to do some intimate cleaning, or to take a shower altogether. But when performing oral sex her mouth is directly in contact with the sperm, which triggers nausea.
You have to let your husband know that you are not into receiving the sperm into your mouth, it is your right to perform it and not getting the juice in your mouth. Just let him know that. As he loves you, I think, although he maybe that type of men who likes their partners not only receiving it but also swallowing it as that is part of the excitement, he will honor your request. He may understand that and retains himself to either let it be out on the sheets or on the floor, or wherever you guys are having fun. Your guys is smart enough and respect you enough so that both of you have your enjoyment, him receiving his fellatio, and you pleasing yourself while pleasing him without the end product inside your mouth
Another person states performing sexual oral act is not her thing because of some hygiene related concerns. As I wide opened my eyes, she quickly told me to not think that her husband has big hygiene issues. No, that is not the case. The real matter is that at the moment of performing oral pleasure, she wants the male organ to be extremely clean. For her that means that he comes directly from the bathroom. Sometimes before performing oral on her husband, he may already peed once or many times during that day; when that occurred the urine smell although not very strong is lingers and bothers her.
But addressing the concern with him makes her fell awkward; moreover asking him to have a shower at that precise moment may kill spontaneity and the magic of the moment. Or having spontaneous sex is so enjoyable. Actually, engaging in that type of enjoyment from the very moment you are horny is so much more pleasurable. She does not see how to say or make him understand not to ask her for blow jobs when his penis is not completely clean. Luckily, for other sexual activities, she is not as picky and will just enjoy the moment because she knows that at some point in the day he already had a shower.
In this case I think a good dose of honesty with a lot of tact come in handy. Because when you do not open up, your partner is not dumb; he knows that something is going on. Although he may not say anything, he is conscious that something is definitely not alright. But he does not know what exactly and why. I am pretty sure that your beloved would like to know the answer to those two questions as they will solve the puzzle. In return, knowing the truth is important for the relationship because oral is part of sexual intimacy and intimacy is a big part, not to say a pillar, of marriages or common law relationships.
Some men believe in blow jobs to the point of wanting it to be part of intercourse all the time. It is what someone told me once which let me to be quite surprised, and at the same time make me question his sexual intimacy. Let’s be honest, what type of intimacy is that? Isn’t there some lack of variety? According to how both partners feel, they may enjoy genital as well as oral sex and all the caresses that go along with it, but when it comes to make it a strict rule, I have reservations on it.
Ladies oral sex is something that your men really enjoy, and you guys although you have to let your partner know that you cherish that a lot d not put too much pressure on her if you realize that she does not jump on it all the times. Instead gently search to know the reasons behind it, work on it to enjoy oral sex.
