In some families, sometimes, one partner can feel not too comfortable about the way their husband or wife smells; it is life and things like that can occur as well, therefore it is better to know how to handle it. The odor coming from your significant other can not only be unpleasant, but it may also make you stay far from his or her presence. Since this matter is an extreme touchy topic beware of how it will bring up on the table.
While addressing it, do not make him or her feel angry as this is not what you aim at. Actually, what you want it is for him or her to get as clean as possible like in old good times because you love your significant other and you do want to stick around him/he. Spending time together, being in the same room together, snuggling on the sofa, laying in bed together, is what you want right?
In fact, showing love mutually is a thing that every ordinary couples do, and keeping it alive it is what life partners aim at. But, imagine that your partners’ smell incommode so much that you cannot stand sleeping in the same bed; by that I mean you even think of sleeping in the guest room. Will you go sleeping in a spare bedroom? The matter does not have to be to that magnitude, hence the need to address it early and well.
Do not make him\ her feel sad. This is not what you want either, as if the way the topic was introduced make him or her feels sad, stop immediately, and revise your strategy because it is obvious that the situation is handled the wrong way: in other words, with lack of tact.
Even though your significant other’s body smell is unpleasant, it is not a reason to aggravate the problem with your behavior. Do not make your significant other feel ashamed. No do not do it like that. I know how incommoding that can be, but do not say to your beloved, hey don’t you see that you stink! When was last time you took a shower? When was the last time you brush your teeth? Your mouth stinks, go brush it!
What you can do to solve the problem then?
Bath salts, new deodorant, new perfume, and saying how you like this on it when she/he smells so god. You will be happy if you smell it on him often . that makes you happy as that prove that he appreciate your gift. So in order to make you happy, he will not only jump in the shower but will put the new perfume on. Your beloved maybe more motivated to take showers and then wear it.
Bath salts are great ideas for him to relax in the bathtub. When he gets out of it, he is all fresh, so do not hesitate to give them as gifts. Do not give everything at once, unless it just in a set. In the same context, you can find a new toothpaste and ask him to try it, then ask his opinion about it. That can be a good trick to use.
Regarding to mouth odor, it is not always due to poor oral hygiene, some issues roots are liver or stomach problems. But, if you think it is about a tooth issue decayed, schedule a dentist appointment for him/her, and give just a gentle and kind reminder that sometimes mouth issue can have general repercussions on health. And you can also do dentist appointment in tandem, many couples do that together.
While my cousin Kenesha was over at my place for a short stay, because at that time she lived abroad with her husband and her 2 year old son Marlon, she said something that was surprising and unexpected. Laying down on the guest bedroom chatting with my sister and I, Kenesha suddenly said told us that her husband’s mouth odor is not fresh, and she does not like that at all. She continued with the topic explaining that in order to deal with it she had to give him gums.
According to my cousin, while he was talking to her in the plane, she noticed that his breath odor was not agreeable which was the reason why offered him a couple of gums. He only took one and turned down others. She then said to him that she was helping him not to incommode the person sitting next to you with your mouth.
Embarrassed and unhappy, my cousin’s husband showed displeasure to his wife. However, this latter reply was that she was only trying to help. My sister said to her her ‘woman please this guy is your husband, do not do that to him.
Even though the guy in question married me and he is my only kid’s father only kid, if he is mouth is stinky, it is stinky; that is not only unpleasant, but it is also upsetting.
It was obvious that my sister was quite not at ease with her statement, and personally I have decided not to chime in because in her shoes, I would have chosen to address it differently. This means talking to him only rather than open up to my cousins or anyone else; furthermore, that may not be an hygiene matter because as stated previously, in some cases you can keep brushing your teeth 3 times a day and use mouthwash the problem may still persist if the cause is from inside your body..
I will not say that not every bit of truth is fit to be told, but the way to address it is paramount.
Bathing together, taking showers with your beloved is a good way for you both to enjoy some intimate time together, I have already talked about this topic here :https://marriageerrorsuccess.com/take-showers-with-your-spouse
Let your significant other know that when you feel not too clean that you feel uncomfortable and you are afraid that incommode him/her; this is why you keep yourself as clean and fresh as possible.
One thing is to avoid is addressing the topic with your friends, oh yes you hear me well, the reason I am telling you that you may embarrassed him/her even more if he/she knows that the topic was tackled with friends.
My dear friends at some points in your relation, your significant other may not smell like roses. But when that become a concern, addressing is a right thing, but doing so the proper way is even righter. Always remember that tact is extremely important in such cases!
