I do not like when you use make up! This is one of the sentences that I have heard many. Husbands who do not want their significant others to put on lipsticks are not as rare as you may think. The matter is not just about them not being fond of it, but it is the fact that they feel annoyed, irritated, and even upset anytime they notice their beloved with some eye-shadows or any other type of makeups. For most of them their excuse is that natural beauty is the real beauty therefore their spouses are way more beautiful without it.
Standing next to the family house front door while I was 8 years old, I heard two guys chatting; what they said would stay engraved in my memory forever. One of them said that women who put on makeup have something to hide, they are not good women and they just try to attract men.
What a shocking statement! While very young at that time, I strongly disagree with them right away. From time to time, my mom uses make up and so do my siblings; as far as I know, none of them were doing wrong things neither made use of it to do bad things. How come someone says something like that; I can never get it..
Personally speaking, I mainly do my makeup for myself because I like it, I do not think it is what makes me beautiful, and that without it I am not pretty or less pretty. Cosmetics, to my mind, are just a beauty enhancer, as a results I do not mind going out without makeup. No it is not an obsession since I can easily do without.
At one of my former workplaces, my coworker Lynn told me that she thought that spouses who do not want their significant others to put on make up were inclusive to low level educated and narrow minded individuals till her manager’s husband, who where born in a upper class, educated family, a pharmacist, always asks his wife not to wear lip-glosses, lipsticks, and eye liners. In spite of her love for her husband, his request for her to stop using cosmetics products on her face is still non executed and will stay as is because according to her, hubby’s demand is not justified.
Prohibiting someone to use makeup makes absolutely no sense to me; for some it is even considered an attempt to free will. Not liking it and letting your other half know that it is ok; anyone can get that you do not have to like the same things your partner like. However, when there is a refusal to accept that your significant other wants to wear it and will still put on makeup, you should back down an accept it. It is her right to say no to you, it is not good to force her to stop doing that.
That same coworker, I mean Lynn, got into the same type of trouble with her husband shortly after their wedding. Although those two were together for more than 10 years and had a girl together, they did not live under the same roof on a everyday basis, so I guessed that after tying the knot she wanted to feel as beautiful as she was on her wedding day with her professionally done makeup because she raved a lot about it and even mentioned to look like that when going out some places. Actually, after her wedding she mainly used lip-glosses and eye-shadows when coming to work.
It was not a surprise to her that her husband, Jules, did not like when she put on makeups. What was a real surprise to Lynn and me was that her maid of honor, who happened to be our colleague as well, said Lynn your husband had a talk with me today, he really disliked the fact that out of the blue you start using makeups. Even though he asked you to stop using it, but you continue to turn a deaf ear. Hence he talked to me early today to make you enter into reason, so listen to your husband and stop using them. I did not chime in as they were in family and my opinion was not solicited, but I was listening to the whole conversation.
Although it was something new for him as Lynn did not use to wear makeup that often, but getting annoyed at the point to getting backup in order to force her to stop using makeup was incredible.
I know that some men act in that manner are just afraid that with make up more men will be attracted to their wife, which is a form of insecurity in my eyes. Explaining that no ill thought is behind this might be necessary; also communicating your feelings, how you feel hurt is also important.
If he needed control over her that bad for a banal situation, I wonder what will occur in the future, for more serious matters? Sincerely, there is nothing to make a drama out of..
Although she did not completely stop using makeup, she barely use lip-gloss, but had to explain to him, that it was needed as her lips are very dry and if not using them she could end up with cracked lips which are painful. Why asked what made her stop using make up, Lynn admitted that she did not want to get more trouble with her husband, and the fact that her own relatives, her mom and big sister were in favor of her husband as well as her made of honor forced her decision. With time her hope is for her life partner to change his mind regarding cosmetics.
My husband does not like me to put makeup on, but when explaining why, I agree with him. In fact, what he does not like is me having flashy lipsticks on my lips, such as red, pink, and orange tones and then kissing him. If going to work and we kissed he had to make sure to wipe his lips because he will work with lipstick on which people will think not appropriate.
Guys if your women enjoy wearing makeup why not let her do her thing. Why that has to bother you that much? Relax!
If you think she is not good at picking colors, why not paying her a makeup coach to help instead. Do not be too controlling, who like having a controlling spouse?
