So what do you do guys when you are very mad at your committed partner, but you are horny? Or how do you react when it is the other way around?
According to some of my friends’stories, that is definitely not a part of the problem; mad or not, they should enjoy each other if sex drive is high; therefore intimacy is not affected.
However, after an unresolved argument some people cannot even imagine how could other couples can engage in intimacy; yet for others, depending on the level of severity of the issue having sex with their partner may or may not be possible. As an example, if the discussion is about something like leaving dirty clothes everywhere in the house except in the dirty-clothes basket, they may have sex with their significant other. On the other hand, if the matter is quite serious like a disrespectful behavior including names calling or and belittling, there is no way for them to get aroused by that their partner, so do not even talk about having sexual intercourse.
And in case it is the other way around, by that I mean the partner at fault is horny and try to initiate intimacy, love making is undoubtedly not in the air as hard feeling such as resentment, anger, bitterness, and frustration, even rage in some cases linger. When Sarah Lynn, a friend of mine, is quite angry at her her husband because he did something bad or said something hurtful to her, the way she penalized him was resorting to withholding sex because she knows well how that guy like his thing.
I happen to remember to me that during a talk with Sarah Lynn’s husband, he told me that a woman should have sex every single day, he was a guy full with energy who was willing to have sex everyday with my friend. With that in mind, I can understand that having arguments or not, he would still try to get intimacy; knowing my friend she would not accept that. In fact when that occurred, she even became verbally aggressive to him.
Personally, when I was younger, after a quarrel with my significant other and even more if he was the one at fault, and the wrongdoing was something quite serious, quite bad, I was more inclined to solve the problem first before either engaging, or accepting to have intimacy.
When it comes to enjoy sex some folks say that body is weak, so this is something they do not control therefore if that pops up, the will be intimate, as after all they are husband and wife, right?
My late friend Annya, who unfortunately passed away a decade ago, told me that you know what Lou, intimacy is really a godsend thing for husbands and wives, as I asked some elaboration about the topic, she said that intimacy not only make you feel good, but it is also a way to solve problems with your other half without talking to much and quite quickly.
While she thinks like that, Gabrielle, a television personality, who was talking about sexual intercourse while conflicts have not been worked through yet confessed that at the end of the sexual act she would let her committed partner know that she still mad at him and that the disagreement between the two of them is still far from being over. So for Annya and for Gabrielle marital disputes do not impede sexual activities.
Other reasons for couples not getting intimate when having disagreements or disputes is because of the fear if they do so their committed partner will not take the issue seriously; as after all he or she still get one of the things that he or she really enjoy. As a consequence all the necessary efforts will not be poured to allow compromises to be reached, or for the problems to be resolved entirely.
As usually intimacy means being totally into the person you want to be with, the fact of being angry at the significant other can cause a blockage in the mind which afterwards gets transmitted to the body; as you already know guys sex and intercourse start in the minds then work their way down to the person’s body. So when their brain is not into that there is no way for the body to be into it either. No there is no room for that.
Guys when you are not happy with your partner what do you do? When you are mad with your husband or your wife do you think you should make love with him or her? When having conflict with your life partner it can happen that the matter at hand get not solved right away; and when the night as come you go to bed being still mad at each other; although we are often encouraged not to go to bed angry while having issues and not solving or find alternatives . In many marriages ceremonies the priest, the pastor or the person who officiates the ceremony to get the two people married always give this piece of advice: do not go to bed mad at each other. But let be honest my friends, we do not always apply it; in fact, a large number of couples with unresolved conflicts do not think of getting sexual activity.
Having sex can put you in a better mood, and when we are in a better mood, we are more relaxed therefore we are more likely to work together with our partner to solve our domestic issues. Yes sex after conflicts can help smooth things over and allow both parties to move on quite faster. So if sexual enjoyment works you guys, go ahead enjoy it! But if it does not work for do not let the issue linger too much as it can negatively affects your sex life. Nobody likes being rejected, sexually speaking!
