Yes it is not uncommon to hear about married men checking out other women in the presence of their wives, and it tends to happen quite often on the streets as it is the place where we meet or see a ton of people.
The first time I heard people about that, I was not even thirteen, was when my mother told to a family member about an ogling man in a clinic. Mom and I went to the doctor’s and there was a man with his wife sitting next to us; that guy was checking out an other young woman. The way he did it was so blatant, he did not try to dissimulate it out of respect for his significant other, that almost everybody in the clinic lobby was aware of it. His wife tried to divert his attention from the curvy lady by talking with him, and using a hand fan for him to cool down, as it was a hot summer day.
But all that was in vain as he was focused on the younger lady, undressing her with his eyes; looking at the breast then going down following the woman’s hips and stopping at her buttocks.
Often checking out other females is regarded as a sign of disrespect towards the significant other, that she means not so much. Some men look at girls discreetly doing so just for a couple of seconds, they just glance; however, for other it is a recurring pattern. Men who pay respect to their wife do not give that type of look for so long when there in a public place with their woman.
Other people said that does not mean anything, that if we, women feel sad, frustrated, uncomfortable with that is just out of jealousy, and out of insecurity. There is nothing malicious, no bad thoughts, no intent of seeing himself fooling with that woman, or wishing he was alone so he could ask information to contact her later, and commit adultery. So we feel that woman has something that we do not have, maybe she is younger, more beautiful, and has a gorgeous body and we feel threatened that she may have an affair with our husband.
For many checking at other women is believed to be a sign, an indicator of adultery since the way that guy is looking at the woman you can even see the sexual desire transpiring in it. And who knows he may even feel his body warming and even has an erection. and if having a chance he will make love to that woman.
I remember that I was sixteen when a couple of friends, one of my sisters and my cousin Anastasia, decided to pay a visit to a neighbor that we have not seen in almost a decade, as we were in her neighborhood.
In the beginning the former neighbor Rose was content to see us, and was happily chatting with us. When her husband entered the living room and begun talk to us, things took another turn. suddenly this guy’s conversation was directed only to m, which I found a bit weird. Then he started to say that I was beautiful, and I had a very nice body; that shocked me.
It was evident that his woman was far from being happy with the turn that our conversation was taking; she was definitely upset and started to bother me tackling a topic that she knew that was very delicate to me and my family. That was her defense mechanism.
Feeling her increasing animosity, I decided that it was high time for me to withdraw myself from that situation so I said that we have another place to go therefore we could not stay any longer. And we all left. I felt so embarrassed so uncomfortable. It was obvious that guy was sexually interested in me, what surprised me more was the fact that I was a teenager while he was in his forty. He knows me as a child, and for him to act like he did was very disappointing; that highlight his lack of moral values.
I did not understand why the woman anger was directed to me, not to her husband. Her man was the one who showed interest in me, not me. She saw me as a threat while I was not one at all. There was no way for me to start anything with someone who had the same age as my own dad; in addition, I was very young and was not into dating.
Furthermore, for many people the fact that a married man is checking out women on the street is a sign that he is not either in love with the significant other anymore, or he is not sexually satisfied. As a result, he is researching other person to initiate something sexually more pleasurable, more enjoyable.
Your husband has the right to look at other women and even to find them beautiful, that is not an issue, however, the way that happens along with it frequency can definitely be problematic. You also you find people interesting when walking down the street. I also look at people, men and women. There is nothing that I like to see well dressed woman an man; that does not mean that I have any other idea behind my head. I can say oh that woman has a nice skirt or, that bag is awesome! etc. Also I can say that man’s pant is well cut, I like it. But, I am not going to say that every time that I see a well dressed person.
If your man behavior regarding women makes you unhappy, uncomfortable talk to him. Tell him that behavior is hurtful, you feel like an ugly, unattractive woman.
Some men will admit looking at other women an apologize while others will make you feel as if you are inventing everything, that all that is in your head because he does not looking at women in the streets, point blank. Either way he will know that you are are of his lingering eyes on women and that does not speak good of him, that you dislike it.
Guys when you stare at women in the streets your partner’s eyes follow yours and she does not appreciate it what she sees. Instead, why do not you looking at your woman, appreciate her beauty and celebrate it.
