Having a hard working woman or man is good as any relationship needs money to survive. Because when bills piled up and there is no money to pay them, problems also pile up at the same time. However having a husband or a wife who kills himself or herself working is not good even though the end goal is noble as it is to take care of his or her family.
I remember clearly the story of one of my cousins, Jerry, who dated a married woman. The fact that someone like him dared doing something like that, and furthermore, was not too worry about what could happen if his rival knew about his relationship with his wife took me by surprise. What was even incredible in that story is that Jerry sometimes visited her lover in her own household and sat to talk with his rival. That blew my minds; I wonder how he got the nerves to do that. Poor husband who thought Jerry was just a friend.
Not happy with the situation Jerry’s my mom told my mom the whole story, let me share it with you guys.
It happened that Katarina, my cousin’s lover, fell for my cousin because her husband was working almost all the times. and neglecting her. According to her, her significant other barely had time for her. It was true that economically she could not complain, but what about love and affection?
As a young woman in her early thirties, Katarina stated that she needed attention as well. Actually she needed her spouse to spend time with her like before.
In the beginning when her other half started to work to much, she understood that he did it in order to provide for the family which talked great of him. But when that went to the extreme and to lasted too long, Katarina expressed her feelings about the matter, explaining how much neglected and left out she felt, then emphasis was put on how much she needed him let him, but all that talk was in vain, since nothing changed.
As time passed it impacted their sexual life. Sometimes Katarina found herself going to bed alone, or sleeping alone for around half of the night before her spouse finally went to bed as he worked late that night. Eventually when that occurred she was already sleeping soundly. Or if my cousin Jerry is to believed, Katarina was a passionate woman with a pretty high sex drive, she was one of those women who truly enjoyed the thing; therefore imagine her dissatisfaction of not enjoying it as often as it should be, as she would want it.
Yes sex importance is even greater when people either just get together, or have high sex drive; in that sense I understand that she missed that part of her relationship with her life partner.
Apparently, this was the reason why her extramarital affair with Jerry originated. In Jerry, Katarina found again so much things that she did not get from her husband anymore such as traveling to France, the United States of America, Spain, Greece, Dominican republic, among others. And what could happen happened; she felt in love with my cousin, yes what in the beginning was just a sexual affair turned into a love affair. Although my cousin had feelings for her I could not call that love; in my views, she gave him the opportunity to live well and to enjoy sex, he just accepted.
Other than killing himself by working a lot and not spending him with his family Katarina’s spouse was a good dad for the children. However, Katarina was not the only one affected by that situation as the kids needed them to at home, they also needed him to go to the movie theater, to go to their sportive activities as all the time it was mommy who was there for them. The kids could be so much happier if mommy and daddy were be there with them to enjoy those moments and make memories; sadly daddy was too busy working.
Even though the kids were spoiled with, all sort of new electronic gadgets, toys and fancy clothes seen on the internet or on television commercials; that was not enough to make them totally happy and to have a happy family.
In my views, both Katarina and her husband are wrong; he knows that he has a young woman and even if she was not young anymore she would still need attention, care, and affection; things that all women like, including myself. Let’s be honest when we are in a relationship with someone we look for that as well otherwise we would do well staying single, right?
Her choice of having a lover instead of getting divorce maybe because too much would be into play like children’s custody; also after all she may be the type of woman who still wants kids to grow up with mom and dad although the household situation is not perfect.
Instead of being faithful she should have been had a good talk with her husband explaining him what could happen if he did not either realize what his behavior could cause or and changed it. But she decided taking a lover and hid that situation as she knew that her husband was not up for an open relationship and would certainly filled for divorce.
Secondly, if in a moment of weakness she committed adultery she had to be conscious that was not good, and to put an end to it before falling in love as when that occurred stopping everything gets quite harder.
Infidelity is not a good thing, it can ruin a marriage and can also brings sexually transmitted disease in your household; instead of weakening your relationship or destroying it think twice before. If both of you guys have serious talks on a regular basis about it, and the matter remained unsolved, it is then the time to welcome a third party’s help. By that I mean seeking professional assistance ass being workaholic is an addiction and getting out of it is not always easy, even with the best will in the world.
Guys in life like in everything, there should be a balance in your relationship, stop working like crazy, take a break to spend time with your significant other and your kids, they need you, do not destroy your relationship in that manner.
