A present from you to your life partner is to make your sweetheart happy, so when it comes to giving one or many gifts to your life partner it sounds good to keep that in mind.
Of course not, I am not going to tell you to buy him a Ferrari, if you do not have the money to do so; please do not go that route to end up being in debts and struggling with finances later on. But at the same time I am not asking you to be very cheap and give him or her insignificant presents either. Who enjoys dirty cheap presents, personally i don’t?
People usually enjoy receiving presents, especially the good ones; I already seen couples who got arguments over wrong presents.
Let me tell you more about that.
Peter, my cousin’s husband, who wanted to give some nice presents to his wife Vanessa got the brilliant idea to ask her what she would like to have for their wedding’s anniversary. Vanessa’s reply was a trip to Europe. Do you know guys what was his answer? Well it was to bring her to the pancake house so that they have some pancakes with maple syrup a couple of fruits as toppings, like blueberries and raspberries, along with bacon and sausages.
As might be anticipated, she did not care for that at all, and she even asked him what did going eating in a pancake house had to do with a trip to Europe mainly in France. In my mind, Peter might not have given it many thoughts before coming up with the surprising pancake breakfast idea because knowing his wife he should have known his proposition would immediately subject to a total rejection.
Perhaps he not could afford paying a trip to Europe, nevertheless proposing that, oh my gosh!
That year affording a trip might have been out of question due to money issues, or maybe he was saving money for important things like buying a new car, or a condo, I do not know I am just speculating here, so that he was not going to waste the money in traveling. But what I think he could have done was booking a French restaurant for them, knowing her, although she would not have been satisfied at 100% she would have enjoyed the taste of her French cuisine and I know French dessert come on top of her list of favorite desserts. Also surprise her with a weekend or even a night in a French hotel would have been a good idea as well. All that would look more like a trip to France than eating in a pancake house, in my humble opinion.
To me and to his wife, that was a wrong idea.
If the present or the surprise is not going to be well received, give it a second thought. So when you do know it will not please your life partner why do you still go ahead with it? It is just for the sake a giving a gift?
This is that part that I do not get and that I am still trying to understand. Knowing about the chances that present may trigger an argument, I would definitely twice before continuing with it.In one of my previous posts I talked about a husband who bought his woman a slice of cake for her birthday, which triggered her anger. That guy knew that would end that way, apparently he did not care. Seriously talking guys, couldn’t he afford buying a whole cake, or just calling a cake house or just visiting it to come out with something that would have pleased her. Not a lot of money is needed for that to happen. Nope, it is not expensive to do that, as I did that so many times.
There was one of my friend who told me that his husband used to give her money as presents for her birthday which she was OK with, some people prefer having money so that they buy exactly what they need or desire, or simply put it in their savings account; either way it is OK. But that time as in past years, she was waiting for the same thing as that has become a habit. She got some money-gift, however to her surprise the amount received was not expected at all, it was in her views, ridiculous. How could he dare give that to her? Is it how he can reward her?, as for her a present is definitely a way to reward someone, to make that person knows that you appreciated the way he or she is, or you like something that she or he did that, something was beneficial to you or to people you cherished. That was just incredible. My girlfriend got so upset that day, that she took her phone called me to explain everything. As a good friend, I listened to the story till its end before asking any questions or commenting.
Venting was what she wanted, so I let her talk, and in the end. Next what I said to her it was not to address the matter right now, rather to let it cool down a bit, which might take a day or a few days, she knows her husband better than me, so she can put the topic on the table without having an accusatory ton. Furthermore, choosing the words well is extremely important; if while explaining things the situation starts to heat just postpone it for another time or another day.
Few minutes after agreeing with me, the rant starts over again, she was pretty sure that her husband has a woman a young girlfriend who he is spending money on. According to her say, this is the reason she could not receive any decent amount of money for her birthday. Yes he is just cutting some of my money to give it to her, and as far as she knows, he has no new bills to pay, he works his full-time therefore money should not be an issue for him.
As you know well guys, whenever both person think they are right or think they are the victim, what they tend to do it is to defend themselves, and in times like that solving the problem or working together toward alternatives that would satisfied all the parties in play become further out of reach.
Guys avoid starting arguments with your other half about things that could have been easily prevented. You know your sweetheart quite well, so if you have a surprise or a gift for him or her make sure that she/he will enjoy it, after all it was what it mean to be, right? Think twice before giving her or him a gift as that moment should be a moment of joy a happy time, so make it that way guys!
