Today the topic is about the drawbacks of the television and internet use in the bedroom, namely during the evening, the night, and early in the morning. Because of those two culprits, the television and the laptop, having peace, restful quality moments, and good sleep is not possible for most of the time. Now, the bedroom is not what it intended to be, a haven of peace; on the contrary, it is everything but that. In fact, I have to call it a game room, a recreation room as it is where he plays games on the laptop, and watch television whenever he wants to unwind and have fun.
Yes, I say it to anyone who is willing to listen to me, I am fed up with the television and the laptop. But, I must make it clear for you guys, the one who I am mainly mad at is hubby, not those two devices because they do not switch on, as well do not and turn on their volume automatically. For this to happen, someone should activate them.
Well, call me a liar if I pretend to be against televisions or laptops, and say I do not use them. For me, as for may of you, I love watching television, and surfing the internet a great deal. However I have control of my television and mobile computer usage, and I make sure that it take place at the appropriate time and place. It is definitely the misuse of those appliances that creates issues and has downsides in our lives.
For instance, if my husband is not at home I can take the opportunity to watch TV on the laptop and even watch a late night show. I will be frank and confess that I have my favorite YouTube channels and blogs, my own account with Netflix, and I also let you know that I watch miss universe every time it happens, which is on a yearly basis.
However, I am not obsessed nor addicted to TVs nor to laptops. I am not like those people who are hooked to the big screen to the point to sit in front of it all day long and even have their three meals there. It looks like they have subscribed to all the TV shows, or receive notifications to this regard. To me, my cousin Joshua perfectly fits in this category of TV viewers. It seems that he lives only for television watching, websites navigation on his laptop, and missing one single show is a big deal.
In case I know that I have stuff to do I give myself plenty of time to accomplish them. If I spent all of my free time online, when would I do my laundry, work on my budget, exercise, run errands, cook for the week, care for hubby?
In view of what I mentioned above, one can easily guess that sitting in front of the television or the laptop is not a priority in my life. Whenever I desire to watch a good show to relax, I just schedule the time for it; next, I take care of important matters, which definitely worth and get all my time and attention. When you have only a few hours left after work to enjoy each other, and you spend it on our laptops, do not be surprised if a conflict unfold and or an argument arise.
Ideally, I prefer watching TV when my other half is busy doing something else, mainly when it is a show that he is not to his liking. On the other hand, my husband does not think like me. In fact, he has a bad habit of watching television anytime, and mainly at night in our bedroom.
By the way, every time hubby uses the laptop I am not happy as the screen brightness prevents me from sleeping; in case I was already asleep I ended up waking up and stay awake for most of the night. The following day, I was usually tired and grumpy as I did not feel refreshed at all. To be kind, smiling, productive, and interact well with clients and collegues, I need my 7 hours of sleep per night.
When I ask him to put the laptop away, all that he does is putting on earsets, and controlling the computer brightness level by turning it down. After a few minutes minutes, believing that I fell asleep, he turns the brightness up again. This trick does not work with me, since I am not dumb; I promptly realized what is going on whenever he does it. He is only thinks about himself.
As well, there is another thing that he does, which makes me smile now, but that gets on my nerves each time he does it. He puts the blanket high enough between him and I to cover a part of the laptop thinking this way he will hide the light coming through the screen. That fails every time. What he does not realize is that his part of the bed, where he put the laptop, is lit by the screen brightness as well as the ceiling.
Now let take the time to address the matter.
First off, let’s review my trials and failures.
One thing I have tried in vain, was getting fed up, and putting blame on him. Yes, I accused him of not being considerate, to put me through that recurrently while knowing perfectly, that I need to sleep to wake early in the morning and go to work. As a results of this, we had an argument. Then, I turn off the TV myself, which also ended up in another argument.
On the other hand, what worked in my case was to calmly talk to him so that I tackle the matter, of course not during the very night that occurred, but a day that was stress free where we joked, and were relaxed. I clearly, but gently explained how TVs and laptop affect my sleep quality.
For those who can afford it, make a room theater at home where the atmosphere replicates the movie theaters’one; there we can drink pops, enjoy popcorn, hot dogs, or ice cream while watching movies. In case of scarce financial resources, just make room for a TV corner. This way, the television will be out of the bedroom, and we will be less tempted to get up to turn it on.
Well television and internet can tremendously become addictive. Watching, one show after another not only undermine our sleep but also the sleep of the person with who we share the bed. We must be firm and stick to the decision that this show is the last one that we watch tonight, then turning the TV or laptop off, and curl up under the blanket to sleep comfortably and warmly.
In addition to this, looking at the screen of either a television, or a portable computer for a long time actually have negative effects on health such as eyes straining, headaches, neck pain, and fatigue among others. When fatigued and headachy, all a person wants to do is laying down in a dark room free of noise, and being alone. As a consequence, the couple spend less and less time enjoying each other; it will be cruel and egotistical to bother him, and to not let him rest.
As a human being, our body needs a certain amount of sleep to function at its fullness, so that the immune system can be efficient to ward off any bugs in our surroundings. Otherwise, there is the risk to getting sick as soon as winter comes.
Let us not use the laptop and the television in the bedroom at night, to enjoy our conjugal partner, avoid disputes, and sleep well throughout the night!
