A great number of moms and also for dad like when their kids are raised and looked over by themselves and their husbands instead of nannies. In fact, that has a lot of advantages that we are not going to list here as we already did it in another post.
I have noticed a large number of stay at home mom (SAHM) who in the past, when they were not staying home to take care of the kids and the house, used to take great care of their self now tend to neglect themselves.
In fact, many people when going out or heading to the workplace take care of their appearance, they put nice clothes on, and look pretty.
Maybe the fact of being around of other people make them dress well, or the workplaces dress have that good influence on them.
On one of her visits my cousin Shantee commented about one of my siblings to her other half. Regardless of going to the workplace or not, going out or not, going out or my sister wakes up, puts on makeup, combs her hair nicely, and puts nice clothes on.
It is clear that you are not waiting for anybody to visit you, so no friends, and no family members will pop up to your place, but that is not an excuse to not taking care of yourself, to not paying attention to your look. Who does not like seeing a well-dressed woman, a good looking lady?
When I was attending University, one of my friends related a conversation between her cousins’ husband and her which happened to be the same thing that one of my cousin’s husband told about his wife, a stay at home mom. According to him, when they first met she was a very well-groomed woman wearing makeup and the likes, but now things have changed. Stephanie, my cousin’s best friend was also present when he said that, chimed in, but I did not as I was quite surprised to hear him talking like that about my cousin.
In my minds, I wondered rather he was just venting or it was his way to ask me for help; for me to agree with him and talk with my cousin about that matter. In my opinion, the best thing was for him to encourage her to look good again, even if it is not in a daily basis but most of the days. By the way, I mentioned it to my cousin a couple of years after because she was talking about it.
According to what my university friend said, her cousin Tatianna, got married to Peter five years ago, and after giving birth to her two kids, she stopped taking care of herself. She did not even wear a bra anymore and the fact of gaining a lot of weight combined with breastfeeding made her breast look saggy. Her saggy breasts were not the problem, but going braless most of the time bothered him, as that was not sexy, not attractive at all.
Stay at home ladies, stop looking blah, there are things, and there are tricks to do to look good again. Things you can do to be gorgeous again to catch his eyes; yes to catch his eyes looking you in a certain way.
First of all, go through your wardrobe, to your closet, any faded clothes, any t-shirts, skirts, with holes should go to the garbage bin. Those huge T-shirt do not make you look good, do not wear them. You do not have to get dress as if you are going to the office, no you do not have to look exactly like that.
Knowing you are tidying your house, I will not advise you to wear your Gucci skirt no, no fancy clothes please. In the same lines, if you are preparing dinner, there is also no need to put your Louis Vuitton high heels, no, unless you are doing something quick and will go to some important places within a few minutes.
Furthermore, wearing a fancy skirt, while you are doing laundry, is not a wise thing to do since it risks to get inadvertently stained with bleach, or detergent on it, which can ruin it forever. Wearing high heels while cooking might you feel not comfortable.
Wear your most comfortable shoes, your most comfy, tongs, etc.; the same applies to your clothes, put on decent, clothes, without holes and stains. Match them well, according to their colors, their prints, and their fabrics. Just with a short and a t-shirt you can look fabulous!
For pity sake, comb your hair ladies! Stop walking at home with tousled hair, do not look that messy.
Stay at home mom, even though you may not see the reasons to look good, do it, and take care of yourself, of how you look, for you first then for your significant other.
If you like make up, go ahead put on some. It can be just an eye liner, or you just do your eyebrows, and put a lip-gloss, if you do not like flashy color, there are very beautiful nude make up and nude lip-gloss out there. Very light makeup things you can be done on a daily basis. Do not put a ton of makeup on your face every single day, it can be too much my ladies.
By following those steps, you will be charming again girls. Remember that you do it for you first, to please yourself, for your self-esteem, for your confidence; then you do it for your significant other and for your kids as well.
When your kids are growing up, and have friends coming over, they will not feel good if their mom neglects her appearance. The same is also true with respect to your husband, his family and friends.
For example, let’s take two women and send them to a store. Do not be surprised if people pay more respect to the one who takes better care of herself than the one who neglects herself. This is how our society works.
Ladies, come on! Make an effort; the fact of staying at home does not mean you have to neglect yourself, not combing your hair and wearing your husband t-shirt all day long; get dressed properly and accordingly; make yourself beautiful!
