I am pretty sure that you all have heard that in many marriages and relationships people say they are in favor or against of 50/50 arrangement. Although splitting things down can apply to several aspects of the relationship, this theory mainly applies to finances not chores. Does 50/50 really happen or it is just a say? Here the big question is whether it is healthy for the relationship, and this is what we will address today.
So many people argue that as women want to be men’s equal,they must accept the fact that also should encompass all spheres of life including bills on a quite regular basis like their husbands do. But do women want to equally split all the bills with their husbands? Will they be happy if they are compelled to do so? Are men willing to pay more than their women? Would not that create, tensions, arguments, conflicts, resentment?
I know lot of women who do not even waste their time dating fifty fifty minded guy. According to their opinion, men are protectors and providers period; as a results, they go for the hills if they meet or initiate talks this type of guy.
Some people take pets as an example to prove the point that splitting the bills by half is something against nature; that should not be done. I remember that during an episode of El Gordo y la Flaca, an Hispanic TV show, Lily Estefan, one of the show hosts, mentioned that when she went to visit a zoo, if I remember well, she was surprised to see the male turtle taking his own food but not eating eat and bringing it for the female. She was not aware of that in the animal world before seeing it. She was surprised to see that males taking care of females exists in the animal world.
That made me smile when Lily related that, as I often witnessed something similar. Mom had a lot of hens and a few roosters, sometimes when I was close to them and watching them in the back yard, I saw one of the roosters picking a grain of rice and go giving it to the hen.
Others will even quote the Holy bible, arguing that it is said man is the chief of the family and as such he should take care of the finances and the woman does not have to worry about the 50/50 scenario. Even religious people do not agree to that so do not expect non-religious to adhere.
My cousin Gilda has her step brother who married a man who is a fifty fifty believer. Every bill should be split which causes ongoing troubles in the family. His woman does not got raised within a family where expenditures were paid equally by mom and dad. So before getting married they did not sit down to talk about finances like many fiancees do because they are madly in love and think only about the honey moon phase. Money is a topic that if you do not talk about , will at some point in the future can be a hot topic as couples does not function without money.
I personally come from a family where my dad does not implement that half half financial matter, my mom would not accept it at all, hell no, she would have divorced. My mom is the old school where the man should be the main provider,. I think that my dad was sort of ok with it, and even took pride in it saying I work hard and I provide more than they need, it what a real man , the head of a family should do.
One of my cousins share that same mindset, to him it is important to take care his woman without she has to spent half of her salary for the household. And when talking to me and with his friends hi proudly said that he provides more than the basic, and the woman is glowing.
However, certain men have a complete different mindset, to them women should contribute half of the household expenses. They are adamant and this is how it should be.
Others who see eyes to eyes with men who think about splitting bills,
Some women say they are not slipping any bills as it is what people do with roommates, but not with the spouses. And as a spouse they will not do that. And it is one of my acquaintances said to me about
his ex woman, she refused to pay half of the expenses pretending she is a wife, the mother of his child and as so, he should take care of them and the idea of 50/50 is for roommates and do not apply to her because she is his wife. No need to tell you how frequent the argument occur because of that.
Other think that women take advantage of situations that profit them in that context, they say that women should have the same rights and privileges as men because there are equal, however when it comes to who pays the bills, they see the man as the head of the family. Therefore they are not equal anymore.
On one hand Some men provide naturally, others you have to put it in their head sometimes they may rebel, on the other hand many men do not agree for half or more of the financial responsibility fall on them.
Most couples I know, the husband is the one who pays more bills and those families who operate like this seem to be happy. Do not get me wrong, I am not saying or encourage every family to manage their finance that way. No, as I have said it before and I will continue to say it, every couple is different and what works for one may work partially for another or not working at all for another family.
Guys do not argue about the fifty/fifty all the time. Find a way to work this up for the happiness of the family.
