Some people are not very romantic while others are, in case of discordance of romance level there will be likely some unmet expectations, which is the case for several people including myself.
At first, both lovers usually show signs of romance. For instance, regardless of age, couples hold hands and walk along the shoreline. But down the road as things cool down, signs of affection might get scarce which the romantic soul partner can miss deeply.
To me romantic gestures show how much that my other half cares for me. As you may guess, it is natural for me to expect a little show of attention from now an then; unfortunately, my guy is not a romantic person. Too often, there is no magic involved in the way he interacts with me which let me disappointed so many times.
I even spoke up about that but to no avail. Actually, a day I told him that he is not part of the romantic men which he did not take too well. It seemed that he was rather surprised to hear that from my own mouth.
Being romantic does not means to spend a lot of time preparing something nor spending a lot of money on it. What matters is the mystery involved, the care, the special touch.
For instance, bringing your other half to the bar, where you met her for the first time, for your relationship’s anniversary, or playing the music on which you dance on your wedding day is a nice touch of romantic. Those little things warm hearts.
Something that simple as a birthday can be turn into a romantic moment. My cousin Ava told me that she was so disappointed of her husband. The day of her birthday, not only her husband did not say happy birthday before leaving for work, but the way her presents were presented got her quite sad. He did not even care to wrap the gifts.
According to Ava, there was no happy birthday kiss, he just gave her a slice of tiramisu cake, and a pair of slippers with the price tag on and said happy birthday. and that was all. 20 minutes later, he asked whether she wanted him to order some food or not.. Hearing him talking like that, she got so mad. He proves that he did not plan anything to make that day special for her. She answer no thanks. She told me he knows me he knows how romantic I am and to do that on my day, a day that I cherished so much.
Why didn’t he invite her to go out and have dinner in a restaurant; he could have done that as she was all dressed up as if she was going to go out. In fact, she thought that was going to happen then she was ready. So the presents were not happily welcomed. She said thanks, and later as her discontent grows even bigger, she went to the living room where her husband was playing a video game on his phone. She said you know what I do not think I am going to keep your presents. You did not have to mark that day because the way you did it was not pleasant at all. You just brought a thin slice of cake without any special decoration. It is not the fact that it was only a slice but the fact that there was nothing special on it nothing that proved that you thought about me. It is just a random slice of cake. His answer was even more shocking, she could not believe her hears when he said I was not going to waste twenty or more in a cake for you, it did not worth it. By hearing that she had no remorse to give him back all the other presents.
I just remember what my friend Lynn told me years ago. One day she asked her partner that she wanted to do something romantic and when he asked what was in her mind she confessed that she wanted to have a stance in a cozy hotel. He said no problem. few days after he came for her for the romantic gateway. At her surprise he brought her in a motel. S one that was not good that was the contrary of what she thought that was coming. There was nothing special in the bedroom. The sheet on the bed was dubious it was more ivory than white. And the following day he woke her up very early and they left the motel around 6; 30 am.
She confessed that she didn’t know how her husband could plan something like that and called it a romantic escapade.
Now let’s take an example of something romantic.
Two years ago for my significant other’s birthday, while he did not think that I was planning anything for his birthday, I organized a beautiful surprise. I called a French restaurant specialized in sea food and reserved for us, I made sure to inform them that it was for a birthday celebration. I carefully picked the dessert that I know he likes, and asked for them to personalize it with his name.
The day we arrived they were already waiting for us, quickly they sat us. He was pleasantly surprised to see how nice the restaurant was. He was even greater surprised when he was the band playing romantic music. As the restaurant was in the edge of the sea we held hands and had a walk after leaving the restaurant.
When arrived home he started to thank me for the nice dinner and everything, I rapidly stopped him, and added, do you think it was all for your special day. Eh no, come to open your present. He took pleasure opening his different presents. I offered different designers boxers. You could see how he was happy. There was something more rewarding when he said how happy he was for having me in his life, that was one of his best birthday, that I made his day.
Guys romanticism does not have to end after you tied the knot; keep your other half happy by having romantic gestures, romantic talks from time to time.
