In a marriage or in a common law relationship the place for you to sleep, your main room, should be where your life partner sleep, not the spare bedroom.
Quite often ego is what prevents us from sleeping in the bedroom beside our husband or our wife, but do not let that get between your partner and you.
Sometimes, the one who is wrong is you not your husband but you; however your lack of wisdom, your big ego prevent you from apologizing and solving the problem promptly. Instead, you prefer to live the bedroom, which is not good.
Other times, we do not leave the bedroom but ask him or her not to sleep by our side to go either sleep on the couch or in the guest room.
In the beginning, while sleeping on the couch or in another bedroom, it may happen that we miss lying down beside of our significant other; in such cases we wish we feel his or her warmth again particularly in the coldest months of winter time. We miss turning, tossing in the bed and feeling his or her body next to us, we also miss holding hands to fall asleep, putting our head on his shoulder, putting our foot on his feet. For some people, closeness to their spouse gives them some security during the night.
However, when he or she overcome that period of missing all that I have just stated, hmm it cannot be that easy to make him or her sleep in the bedroom again with you, or do so sporadically. Or husbands and wives normally should sleep together.
Your significant other can find a new feeling of freedom again; we do know how being free is enjoyable. Yes human being likes their freedom. Of course, things like staying late at night can start being interesting again. Out of respect for your significant other, if you were in the master bedroom with him/her, there will be a time for the lights to be off because it prevents your spouse to either fall asleep or waking her or him up as not everybody can sleep with the light on.
While alone in the spare bedroom you are free to browse the internet, and that maybe a temptation because he or she can start an affair online; beware of that.
I know that some couples without being mad at each other make the arrangement of not sharing the same bed, therefore each person has its own bedroom. Apparently it works for some couples, and the reasons why they do so vary. Actually, it can be for reasons like working late at night and not coming to bed because you are afraid to wake your wife or your husband up. Do not forget that some people who get married are not really in love with each other so I will not be too surprised if those people sleep apart. I remember that I was watching an episode of the housewives show when one of them stated that marriage is 20% love and 80% business. Yet, what I also remember is that woman looked so lonely. And after a few more episodes of that television show, her husband and her got a divorce.
Do not let that become a habit, that every time that you get mad at your husband you go there to sleep. And if the matter is not resolved soon enough, some people tend to sleep in the bedroom for a long time; which is not good.And that is another potential danger for your relationship. As he can be tempted to go find what he or she does not find any more outside.
That remind me of my cousin Adeline who on unfounded claims, as she did not get a proof of what she thought about her husband Wills, moved out of the master bedroom and stayed there for a couple of months. Her spouse did not take that well at all. But luckily, when Adeline realized that what she was doing was wrong, she found a way for coming back to the shared bedroom.
The problem was that one day a woman popped up in Adeline’s house with a kid who was around five years and asking to see my cousin’s husband
The problem with my cousin Adeline is she is too jealous, too emotional which make her prone to jump to conclusion too rapidly. She thought that her husband cheated on her and was still doing so just because she saw that woman and the child; in her minds that kid was her husband’s daughter. What proof she had about that? Zero. That kid happened to have the same complexion as her spouse and she also had some resemblance with him according to my cousin.
Let’s imagine that her husband had an affair with that woman, what do you think could happen when she slept apart? Don’t you guys think that because her wife did not sleep in the same bed as him and also the fact they were not intimate anymore could be the opportunity for him to go back to that woman. Not a lot of people, mostly men, will stay a long time without having intimacy. No. Don’t you think that can make him go back to tat woman?
Having your partner sleep every night with you again if that have lingered too much cannot be as easy as you think. Although both of you can resume sex but he or she may still sleep alone.
Guys even though you are mad at your spouse, it is not a reason to sleep in another room. Instead, stay in the bedroom and work on the issues at hand. So guys refrain yourselves from going to sleep on the couch or asking your partner to leave the master bedroom to go to the guest room as that can drive you guys further apart.
