In a marriage many factors are important for it to last; among them we can cite feeling of being comfortable in your home.
Guys make sure that your life partners feel comfortable at home. Being comfortable has several meanings and therefore encompasses many things. Turn your home into a place where your life partner wants to be, and wants to stay. When he/she is out make him/ her want goes back home soon because of the way you treat him/her, how you talk to him/her, all that makes him/her want to be with you and miss you when he/she is away. Make him /her feel special and valuable as we, human being, always want to be where we are welcome, were they like us, and make us feel good. In other words where they treat us quite well.
Yes sex is a pillar in a marriage or in a relationship, but if your partner knows that when he comes back home you are going to yell at him, reproach him, talk about things that are already part of the past that you said you forgave him, believe me you are just pushing him away. Sex will not keep him by your side although your are an expert in bed. And depending on the frequency of that, do not get surprised if he starts to spend less and less time with you. He may then spend more time with friends after work, and even on weekends he will go out because home is a place where he does not feel good anymore. He is not comfortable there anymore, which is not good for him and also for your relationship guys. There may come a time where he feels alone as the person he should feel more comfortable with is you not his friends as you are the one he tied the knot with.
You know that we humans loved to be cherished, so cherish him/her; otherwise chances are that he/she may start seeking for comfort outside of marriage and can become unfaithful; which I do not wish for you and for any other couples. Believe me girls, there are some women, out there, when having a romantic affair with your husband may fall in love with him, or may just want him to be only theirs for some other reasons; in those cases they will do anything to keep him. They will start doing things that you do not do or stop doing for your husband. You may ask how do they know what you have stopped doing lately or a long time ago or things that you do not do. This is simple; it comes out of your husband’s mouth. Yes he will complain and vent to the lover, like a kid; that reminds me of someone who told me that men are like kids, when it comes to being affectionate. According to that person, they are like a small kid who searches for his mom attention and affection. Based on my personal experience and what I have witness in my life, what that individual stated is true.
What guy do not enjoy the company of good looking and fit women? They take pride having and walking along with a woman who gets a lot of attention in the streets. Likewise, men like having professionals person in their lives. Because they know when two professionals, two hardworking people get together economic growth and meeting some goals like buying a house, building one, or having enough money to start a good business are right around the corner.
Yes all that are true. However, do you think that if your spouse does not feel at ease in the relationship, he does not feel good at home he will stay with you? The answer is is no; do not hide the truth or lie to yourself. There will be a time where he thinks that he is still young, that it is time for him to really get what he deserves while he is still young so that he will have no regret later when he get old,. He does not want to be old, alone, or with a partner who is almost always mad at him, or not giving him the proper attention. While there is still to search for another partner.
That makes me remember what a woman named Marly told me a couple of years ago. She said that her cousin Gerald married Kim who is a registered nurse, but he happened cheating on her with another girl who many think less beautiful than his wife, and also less educated than her. Yet, because it is with her that he feels comfortable, to the surprise of many he quit his wife, he got a divorce and married her. He did that because his well-being, peace of mind were more important than everything else.
To make your significant other feels at ease with you, do not try to boss him, or her that will not work. Girls men do not like being with bossy women, may of them in their head think they are the boss so do not come giving orders, instead try to work with them. Surprise him or her with a nice dinner, a snack made specially for him or her. Believe me he or she will appreciate it.
Do not spend a great deal of your free time chatting and texting with friends, this may come out as neglecting your significant other. In his or her eyes those people matter more than him or her. Instead spend most of that time with him or her, enjoy your life partner. From time to time put the telephone down or put it on silence.
When he or she does something great, express how you feel about it, if you do not do so he or she may not know that you appreciate it. Men like hearing it from their spouses’ mouths. My man always says to me that he needs and like having pats in his back
Those things are things that show him or her your love, and how much you care about him or her, so do not hesitate to incorporate them in your relationship guys!
