Intimacy and sexual intimacy play a huge part in any marital relationship; this is particularly true as most sexless relationship does not work well. This is all the more likely that the couple are newlyweds or just a few years of being together, but some people (do not think it is only men as some women are quite sexual as well) still love and enjoy that regardless of the duration of their union.
Intimacy is at the same time verbal and non-verbal. What is verbal is expressed in a way that the other person has no doubt, very few doubts about the sexual intent, and is the likelihood of missing it or pretending missing it is either very low or nonexistent. However, non-vocal intimacy can be missed, hence you should learn to recognize them.
As you know your significant other, you know that he/she is one of those who do not often voice their desire, so do not tell me you expect to hear any come here honey, I want to be close to you, I need you into my arms, or I want to make love to you.
In terms of intimacy, nonverbal communication as a touch of mystery, a touch of romance.
Many times, my husband said to me that in spite of giving me many hints I did not react back. And when hearing that statement, I replied with something like that: when did that happen? Because I could swear that I did not see any sign, any gesture pointed in that particular direction. Then I added I do not know why he did not get it more explicit so that it could get easier to spot. In case I am not in a great good mood, my answer may be why he did not tell me he wanted me.
You know guys, the way that your life partner looks at you, the intensity of the look, how long that happen has a meaning. As well as a smile, a kind gesture, the way he/she hold you, the sweetness of his/her voice, the way he/she was caring for you throughout the day, all this display of attention and affection for sure means something, now it is up to you to interpret it.
That does not imply that you are going to have sex right away. Although that may happen.
I remember that I was in a waiting room to pick up a friend of mine in an airport and it was when I listened to a man talking with another guy about his wife. The main complaint was about his wife not reading his sexual hints. Actually, despite giving her all those signs she kept cleaning the house which was not dirty and she could have done that later or another day. He wondered if she was blind and he could not get that she missed all his signals as they were clear, according to him. And at the end, as it was getting late, he finally lost hope of getting intimacy with her that night, and fell asleep. His interlocutor replied: I understood you man.
But there was another woman there listening as well who intervened in their talk. According to her, the guy’s wife simply missed the signals plain and simple.
I was actively listening them but without voicing my opinion.
Sometimes, your other half may be a little shy and does not overtly express himself/herself. Although it may sound weird, when it comes to desire it can be a little bit intimidating to say it aloud to the other partner. They prefer sending signs for that reasons.
Some people mainly communicate their sexual desires this way, so if the other partner misses it too often, opportunities to be sexually intimate could happen less often. When the partner who wants to initiate sex see that there is no positive feedback, he/she could just get to bed or do something else out of frustration.
The person at the airport that I mentioned above said no wonder why some men turn to mistresses to have what they need as their own woman to not fulfill that desire which mistresses and\or sex workers will be more than happy to do that.
After a short while, the woman intervened again, but this time to say to the two guys to not seeing things that way. In her views, women, wives sometimes do not respond to your signals not because they do not intend to give sexual pleasure just because in many families, women are in charge of many things, including cooking, cleaning the house sometimes more than once, making sure that the kids are feed and schoolwork has been done. As a result, they are so focus on getting all that done that they just simply miss it; there is in no way any mischievous intention there. Also being tired affect our ability to clearly interpret things.
And as it come to women of the evening, you just pay your money to obtain satisfaction, sexually speaking of course. Therefore you get what you paid for as those person are there for there; they ensure to provide as much service as possible so that you can return and they make more money. So therefore there is no comparison between a pretty busy wife with a prostitute, wives have so many tasks to tackle while people working in the sex industry have only one job to do : satisfying clients.
In my opinion, that woman was so right in many points; however, although you cannot satisfy your significant other’s every single sexual desire, reading them, having a gesture of attention, giving hugs, snuggle together can be of a great aid and help him or her wait till another time where both of you can make up.
Missing those signals too often is not good as that as he or she can wrongly interpret them.
Do not pretend not seeings all those signals of intimacy or do not turn them down too often. At the end It does not cost much to get closer to him/her give a hug, let him/her take you in his her arms, and hold you never know, adrenaline can quickly rise, and both of you got heated and have a happy end as you guys end up pleasure each other.
Guys knowing and interpreting your spouse’s implicit sexual language is important as he /she may often communicate to convoy his /her message.
