When you both met he was slim, so did you. With the passing of time, as a result of constant weight gain, his slim figure starts to change. Your other half becomes cheekier, his chin seems like it has doubled, the arms get bigger, there is some fat accumulation in the back on both sides of the ribs, the six packs, and flat belly are replaced with a layer of fat that is obviously visible.
So you wonder what happens to your charming prince for him to put on so much weight.
I may seem to repeat myself, but I cannot stress enough the importance of communication when it comes to help him get back in shape. In fact, the way in which the issue is approached, the tone set, as well as the words used can definitely get things move and make him want to open up to you without feeling ashamed. So be mindful of how you tackle it with him, as what you want it is for him to care more about the way he looks, so that you are not signing up for trouble, arguments and the like.
First off, even if you may be tempted to say something like you eat too much, do not you see how your belly is becoming bigger and bigger? Yes its diameter increases crazily day by day. Oh you are eating again! You better start counting your calories! Lately you have to buy new clothes because the old ones do not fit anymore. Although all that is nothing but the stark truth, you cannot put it that crudely since it will do more harm than good..
In certain instances, weight gain is linked to some diseases; for instance, Cushing disease. This latter is an illness where an individual experience weight gain, has a hump in his back, and a moon face. So you see, not all cases of overweight and obesity are due to improper diet and a sedentary lifestyle. Cushing disease is not about the individual not being able to control what he/she eat nor that is related to the fact that he/she ingests large quantity of food. In the same context, excessive weight doe not always have to do with bad eating habits, such as consuming great amount of bacons, ash browns, milkshakes, muffins, cupcakes, French fries, and fried chickens. No.
Keep in mind that as far as we age our body metabolism (the way human being processes food, the part of it that is used by the body and the other part that is eliminated) ages as well therefore some people are more inclined to experience some extra weight.
Here are some tips about how to you tackle the topic to avoid arguments and or not making him feel bad.
It is good to remind him to watch his calories and the nutritious value of what is in his plate as bad eating habits may later have serious consequences like high cholesterol which can lead to heart attacks, and strokes which in turn can impair locomotion, speech or even cause death. But, do it kindly.
What you can also do if he is the one who buy grocery is to make a list and give it to him. Another way to do it smoothly, it is to accompany him at the supermarket so you both choose what to be on the everyday menu. If it is you who is in charge of the meal, mainly buy healthy food, avoid too many meat in sauce, rich creamy pasta, and lot of fried food.
Encourage him to sign up for a gym membership. You can also go to the gym wit him as many times people are more prone to do something when having a companion, or they may not get discourage early and quit if the other person works out with them.
This way you can cheer him up after he lifts some heavy weigh., and at the same you can suggest some other machines to use.
Do you still have desire for him, do you still enjoy seeing him naked, do you have desire to touch him and play together. Some of you may say that yes he is my husband whether he is fat or not he will still be my man. But deep inside would not you prefer his waist to be slimmer. Would not you like to see and touch a less bumpy belly. Would not you like to see how fit he is in his jeans, and suits?
The problem with weight gain is that it may affect how handsome and how attractive he still in our eyes. Also being overweight affects his auto esteem, he may be not proud to show his naked body.
I remember one of my friends talking about his husband and said in less than 5five years of marriage his sweetheart’s body as changed so much. That his lower abdomen was a bit lumpy and looks like it was moving when he moves as well. As she could not take her eyes on it, he tried to hide it with his hand, and told her to stop fixing that part of his body, that night lovemaking did not happen. And also she realized that instead of sleeping with his boxer like he usually does, now he even both pajama to sleep in.
So you see after that shaming incident, he does not even dare sleeping naked anymore, a thing that had being going on for at least one decade.
Ultimatum such as you had better lose weight and start working on it right now otherwise I will divorce you do not work very well. Instead use the methods that I previously cited. Sometimes people give those ultimatums just to put pressure on their other half, not because they are going to do it. But he knows what you tell him, he cannot read what is in your minds. He may find you very superficial, or not supportive at all.
Sometimes if he watches his diet, he will definitely regain his old silhouette.
Guys remember that how we look, our physical appearance does count but when there is an overweight tackle the topic kindly to encourage him and help him regain his previous or target weight.
