I know that almost all of you know what diabetes is, but for the ones who do not know about it, allow me to do a succinct summary for you. Diabetes is a metabolic disease that affect a great deal of people worldwide causing high blood glucose, I mean high sugar level, and can have very serious consequences such as vision impairment, blindness, kidney failure, amputation of toes or even of a leg, coma, and death.
Do you guys know that diabetes can also affect sexual life?
Aunt Sarah’s husband was diabetic and as the disease was not well managed; at some point in his life, he got a lot of trouble with his sexual life ; unfortunately, diabetes affected his ability to not only keeping an erection but also to achieve one. Actually, the problem with them was that my aunt was not into having sex with him because of that. I remember she even confessed to me that it was not interesting at all to touch a penis that is not in erection; a soggy penis as she called it. Auntie even told me that she asked to herself what can be done with a limp penis? Then she answered her question herself stating that she could not do anything with it.
My aunt’s husband had an entirely different opinion about that. He told his wife that he could not understand why she did not want to please him sexually. As he was a jealous man, he was quick on having suspicions that my aunt might have seeing someone else who replaced him in her bed. Although he never had any proof of it; which I also thought was not true since my auntie is not the type of woman who does stuff like that. No, not after three decades of marriage and having six kids together with her husband.
At that time, when my aunt told me about her husband’s sexual problem, I was a bit shy to talk overtly about sex with her, you know I was not too comfortable tackling sex topics with my parents and other relatives way other than me. However, now I am quite open to address sex related topics, this is why I am here am sharing with you alternatives and some tips to keep enjoying each other in bed.
While venting her anger and frustration about how diabetes affected her husband, my friend Lynn commented that and how that in turn had negative impacts on her sex life with him. In fact, according to my dear friend statements, her husband ability to have a good erection for her to enjoy him had become worse and worse. Nevertheless, in spite of that she keeps having sex with him as he is her husband.
From my point of view, her way of thinking was very good, and I concurred since in marriages or in committed relationships it should be about both people, husbands and wives should be together in everything; in good times and in bad times, which for sure includes health issues. I was proud of my friend.
But few years later after my friend let me know that despite of having sex with him with his poor erection, she changed her mind. Keep reading to know why. Much to her surprise, her other half was in connection with a woman way younger than her in his country of origin with whom he made plans of traveling to spend with her. When getting reunited, he would had sex with his young lover in a bathroom among rose petals,glasses of wine and candles.
By learning that, Lynn got so angry that she wished that diabetes impair his erection completely; this way he could not be with that young lady or any other one. What made her even angrier it is the fact that her husband’s plans with his new girlfriend were exactly what he did with her a decade ago when they were dating.
Although my friend’s wish was shocking, I could not help laughing; let’s get serious now, I firmly believe those words were the product of anger, and frustration as it is never agreeable to realize that your partner is unfaithful, or is on the verge to commit adultery. As you know guys how infidelity can weaken and ruin marriages.
When diabetes causes erection troubles when it comes to be intimate, its is the time to seriously get professional help. The first thing to do when is getting an appointment with your doctor to get a thorough checkup to evaluate the extent of the illness in your body, its repercussions in your life and to take proper care of you.
For people struggling to get their penis hard, medical doctors can recommend getting a penile pump, or getting some injections or other treatments. As well, it is good to go together with your wife to that appointment so that she asked questions as well as intimacy is a thing of two people. And do not hesitate to get help from a sexotherapist or a sexologist.
Sometimes you have to explore other ways of having pleasure. I remember that my auntie’s husband told her that he could use his hands as well to please her.
Not being able to get hard enough to perform sexual act can be very tough on your husband; it can create a great deal of stress on him. I remember hearing a man saying to me once: look at that beauty by my side, talking about his woman, but I cannot please her anymore because of that issue. Afterwards he added that he was frustrated so much, and he felt like that he was not a man anymore.
Guys the fact that your husbands are diabetic and that starts has ill effects on their ability to please you in bed does not mean that sexual pleasure is over for them with you. You can still give each other pleasure by searching for professional aid and getting more creative. Remember that you commit to each other in good times and in bad times in sickness and in health , so do everything to keep satisfying each other as much as possible.
