The world has become a small village, people travel quite frequently to other countries for reasons such as leisure, work, health issues among others; all those grounds are opportunities to meet people of all races and cultures, and mingle with them. As you are used to hearing love does not have color, I personally concur since when I am in love I do not even see skin color.
In the past, it was less common for people of different races to get together, get married and start a family; however, nowadays we see more and more interracial married couples. You may say that some of them will end up divorcing or separating, which is unfortunate, yes but the same thing is true for same race marriages as well.
Getting married outside of your own race for sure comes with its own challenges. You can be as open minded as possible to be in such relationship; however, there will be a day into your life where problems, conflicts arise; you will have to face them in order to keep your family going forward.
Sometimes, races comes with different spiritual beliefs and or religion, which could be an issue as well; I have already addressed that in a previous post, feel free to read it. In the beginning you may think that oh that will not be an issue as we love each other, our relation is strong enough to not let that causes troubles in our life. Hmm, I am not too sure that is 100% true. Sorry but allow me to disagree because no matter how strong your relation is, you will have to face that at some point in time, trust me.
I am in an interracial relationship, and believe me guys most time, I do not even notice that his skin complexion is not like mine just because that does not count for me; for me what matter is the love we have for each other, how we show it to each other, and the like. It is unfortunate that those differences do matter for some people and they use them to wreck havoc in your marriage.
I still remember the comment of the mother of a friend of mine when she knew that I was dating out of my race, she got really surprised and told me oh your date those type of people? My answer to her was oh you know they breath, eat, drink, fall in love, and make love as well therefore they are people like you and I. Frankly, in this day and age, I cannot understand how this way of thinking still exists. Years ago certain groups of people were thinking like that, but nowadays finding people with that mindset is truly astonishing. Many people are still surprise when they find out who is my hubby, I mean his race, once when I went to the hospital and one of the nurses asked whether I came alone or with someone so that he can find him and inform him about my case; upon describing him to the nurse he got so surprised and then he told me you have a chocolate skin child then! Apparently that was unexpected.
Sometimes the problem arise because of the surrounding of your other half, or because of yours.
Guys diversity is awesome, on earth people come in plenty of shapes and colors, which is beautiful, interracial dating comes with its beauty but also with some challenges that same race couples are not really exposed to. Do not let that ruin your relationship, fight it to keep living happily, after all your happiness does not depend of them but on you both.
When walking in the streets or in a mall walking and holding my other half’s hands, expression of disapproval on their face can be clearly seen, which should not happen because I date whoever I want and nobody should dis only based on my skin color and my husband’s also .One of my sisters even called me racist when she knew that I was dating out of my race. Those things are what come into your ways guys when you both take the decision to engage in an interracial relationship or marriage.
My mother in law never accepted me just because of my skin color, she ignores my child because of being a mixed kid, I remember when my hubby told her about my pregnancy, the first thing she said was if this was a good thing; afterwards she added that she did not know that we were planning to have kids together as if we needed her permission. Whatever! And since the baby was born she ignores him and when talking to my husband over the phone she will not even ask for her grand kid. Although she lives less then two hours from our home she will not pay a visit to see or be with our child, that does not matter to her. That was very harsh on hubby as he said that he never thought that his mom ill not be part of his kids life, and that made him feel as if he did something bad.
Moving forward and look beyond our skin complexion is what we should do. Life is already full with other issues such as hunger, diseases, job loss for us to complicate it even more with stupidities. In fact, the same blood runs in our veins and we all have the same feelings because we are just human being; races should not be a problem. Tough both partner experience that problem, one who face it the most. For instance, in case of a black and white couple, the black spouse tends to experience it more.
Interracial couples should communicate a lot to stay strong and overcome this issue. During my pregnancy I had several talks about how the baby may look like, skin complexion and hair type wise, and the issues that could arise because of that; that way hubby was sort of prepared in case people made that type of comments in the future. This was a good move because he knows how to react when hearing bad comments about our how our child look.
Guys interracial marriage comes with its own challenges, in order to overcome that stress be open to each other, let your partner know how much stress that is putting on you and that your current mechanisms coping are not totally efficient therefore he could help you revised.
