It is a fact that being a stay at home mom have plenty of advantages; however, after staying home for several months or years, some mothers can start to feel quite isolated, that their world turn only around their kids and their significant other. Indeed, this is the case of so many women, as when leaving the workforce your friends that you made there tend to be in touch with you less and less, at the end you may find yourself with less and less friends as well.
Spending many days without even getting out is not that uncommon for stay at home moms as there is no more obligation to go out to work everyday like in the past, and when you go out it is almost only to ran errands. They can even start seriously missing their old work friends; as you know, many times, some not getting on touch with friends for extended period is a factor that can undermine friendship; those ex coworkers that you have not seen in a long time, and you did not keep in touch during that long period either by phone calls, text messages, email among others just stop to be your friend. The bound you had in the past can become quite inexistent; or it can also just stay in the past. They can feel trapped in their day to day routine, and may wish they can get out of it.
Being a stay at home mom is a good for those who picked that route, but when solitude feelings show up ways to overcome it should be found in order to continue to enjoy life, and to keep having a social while being a good mom a good.
Nothing is wrong about being, of course, being courteous and chat with her; after all it is politeness, but after a while the desire to hang out with my friends who are my age was quite strong. One time I also remember that she said that she felt bored quite easily, she did not have a lot of friend and also she confessed how much she liked having people over. That made her feel well, it made her feel that she had her own social circle.
While she was a stay at home, aunt Jessica, was very happy when I used to visit her years ago as very few people came to her house to chat especially visit her and she had few friends. Likewise, for one of my mom’s friends, when I was over her house, visiting my friend Caroline, she will be very happy to see me and she started talking a lot to me as if I was there for here. All that happened out of her lack of friends and loneliness.
When those thoughts are in the minds it is time to take the matter into your own hands. I understand guys that sometimes you have enough of staying home with the kids and hubby for most of the times. Actually waking up and doing the same thing: cleaning the house and cooking, can be boring at the end of the day; therefore wanting to escape that situation from time to time is quite understandable. Lack of friends and solitude can be very hard for people who used to be very social, for stay at home ladies who used to go on lunches with coworkers, and whose work was highly valuated in the last workplaces.
What to do is not to lose touch completely with your friends and family members; even if it is just a couple of times during the year, just contact them, talk to them. This way, it is easier to have someone to talk to, or to go out with.
Do not expect them to call you and invite you for diner all the times; no, take the initiative as well. Make the first steps since at the end you are the one who wants to get out of that loneliness, to have friends, and socializing with the; so do not expect other people to do that for you. Not everybody can and turn that invitation down. And in case they do it once, they may not do it many times. Also if someone turns it down several times, do not insist either as you will sound needy, desperate. That person just does not want to do activities with you, they may not desire to socialize with you anymore; which is also quite normal.
Avoid the mistake of inviting people over your place all the times because that will put you cooking and also you will not get out of the house. Instead, go to a restaurant with them, go watch a movie, go together do other fun activities such as go shopping together. Yes, go to a shopping center to see the new clothes arrivals, the brand new purses, and the new shoes.
Head to the nails salon for a manicure and or a pedicure; there you will meet people with who to chat while making yourself prettier.
Getting people to hang out to be friends with can be just natural, but that does not imply it should be that way only, no, eliciting it works as well stay at home moms. Online groups for meeting people, as well as stay at home mommy groups is a good idea; if you are into it. You can meet at the park if you have small kids, and after meeting for a while and getting to know that person better, you can plan to meet with her at a restaurant where both of you can hang out. And this is without the kids, for sure.
So when hubby his home he can watch them; you do deserve a life a social life outside of your household. That will create a balance in your life, and this way no more loneliness. That can be planned a couple of times during a month. You will have a fulfil life. When having new friends and or socializing with old ones, make sure that you keep in touch in them this time.
Ladies the fact of being a stay at home mom does not mean living in isolation with hubby and the kids and give up on things you liked or still like doing, no find ways to keep socialize to balance your life and life happily.
