As a kid, I remember that a friend, Jim, who came for summer holidays with his mom, his sister, and two of his cousins had a Nintendo game. This is when, for the first time, I heard about Nintendo. Very intrigued by the game we let him install it at my place, I mean at my parents’ place for him to have fun. Thinking about that now, I did not it have it clear why he did not set it up where he was staying. Anyways, after watching him playing, I found it very interesting and I already thought on how to master the game.
As the Nintendo game was so fun, I quickly became hooked to the extent of, everyday, after having breakfast I would grab the console to get started with it. As you can imagine, guys, my excitation level wash so high that I could not wait to have the chance for him to finish playing and getting my turn so that I had fun as well. After all the game is his not mine therefore I should wait for my turn; my siblings and I were fortunate that he left us play with it for that long.
After this summer, I became less and less interested in it and after a couple of months I was not into it anymore since I developed new areas of interests. Therefore, going out with friends, reading magazines, partying, attending concerts were what attracted me at that time.
However, transition from that stage to the adulthood; unfortunately always occur as many keep playing Nintendo as if they were eight or ten but not 35 and even 40 years old. The addiction for this type of game does not fade or go away, it either stays the same, or become worse.
My cousin’s husband is the living symbol of what an avid game player look like. Each and everyday, after work, he heads straight to his room, sits on the bed and grabs the games console. There, he will spend hours till he has a break to either use the bathroom or to eat a bit then he comes back to the bedroom to keep doing what you already know guys.
During his gaming time, if his daughter, Sarah, wants to be with him, he turns her out and will not do any activities with her. When addressing her, he usually has three answers: go be with your mom, he just turns on the television for her, or do not bother me I need my alone time as well.
In case of the last two answers, the poor little goes back to her mom in tears. When he puts her before the television, he does so for her not to bother him so that he can focus to resume his activity.
Oh I almost forgot to tell you that: yes besides playing video games, he also buys all other childhood toys to play with, for example among his arsenals you will find little robots, trucks, cars, and so on. This guy definitely is stuck in the childhood phase; only his body has grown up not his mind.
What is worse is the little girl is also becoming addicted to those games too. Instead of doing her homework, they spend a significant amount of time playing games. He also does the same.
Although there is a basketball field close to where they live, you will think that he often goes there with her to play basketball. You are so wrong guys. No, he does not do that at all. All that gets his interest and attention is playing with toys and video games.
That behavior leads to frequent conflicts in the household.
After work she the one to picks up Sarah from school, make sure that she eats; snacks and dinner are also on her too. She is also the one who should help with homework because she cannot count on him for any help.
Sarah’s mother often says that her spouse sets a bad example for the girl because she already has a focus problem, That is becoming more and more evident. Which affect the little girl school performance. In fact, teacher told her that she does need extra help with some topics.
At bedtime, she is the one most of the time who has to get Sarah ready. When he does it he tells a story really rapidly, and sometimes does not even finish them if there was a request of more than one story. All that is to come back to his numerous toys and video games. He does not brush the teeth properly which causes her to have carries in a few teeth.
Getting so many toys in a quite regular basis also means spending a lot money. When doing so the orders are mainly placed on common websites which offer fast delivery.
This wasted money could go their fond savings for vacations, or to contribute to pay the rent, or towards the electricity bill. When he buys them he pretends it is for his .On a monthly basis he buys those things. He does not even let her play with them. Which makes her sad. Why she is not allowed to play with them, if they are for her.
His role as the male of the household is not fulfilled.
A third thing that is related to that that contributes to fuel Sarah’s mom frustration is that her daughter to get the bad habit of eating in the bedroom in front of the television. Obviously it is out of question that she accept to let her eating in front of the television. In such moments Sarah says mom you are not cool, I prefer being with my dad. You are too strict with me.
In situations like this, she has to be very patient, to explain to her that unlike toys, schools is what will allow her to be an independent women, a valuable member of the society. Therefore appears to be too strict to the little girl is called discipline; every person who is successful in life has discipline this is one of the most important values that allow them to meet their goals.
Guys please work on your game addiction to have a healthy family!
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