This post is for everybody, but women who are stay at home moms or want to become one this post is useful for you; yes it is for you my ladies who feel worthless. Before elaborating on today’s topic , I would like to stress that before jumping in the stay at home world to give it countless thoughts to see if it for you as it is not a walk in the park. Feeling worthless is one of the problems that can come with it. Do not get me wrong, being a stay at mom home is also very rewarding and noble. It is just not for everybody.
Feeling diminished, devaluated is something that unfortunately many stay at home moms experience, especially months and or years after being in this role. As well, in the same vein, I have heard people not talking well about stay at home moms; which is not good at all. Yes this occurs because being a stay at home mom is something that is not granted too much importance by so many people; according to them this is not a big deal contrary to being a lawyer, a nurse or a successful business woman: which many value so much.
However, putting yourself back to put your family first is quite noble and therefore should be seen like it is really: a very beautiful act of love, of care and abnegation. But unfortunately, like it is mentioned above, this is not always the case. When introducing yourself as a stay at home mom some people do not take you seriously, and many even look at you as if you are nothing, as if you are not a valuable member of the world. Actually, what is even worse it is that countless stay at home moms are not well regarded from their own significant others, and even from their own kids.
Imagine that you put your kids first as well as your other half and then they overlook you because you are not actively working to come up with a decent paycheck. That can be so hard on you.
But I want you to know your worth; of course, you worth a lot, because what you are doing is priceless, you are available for your family twenty four seven every week, every month and every month. You do not take breaks, do not go on vacations, and above all you wake up early then go to bed late.
In the workforce there are vacations, people go on holidays, but at home with the husband and the kids are you going to say to your kids yesterday you went to bed quite late because you were taking care of them then today you are taking the day off to rest while they are still sick? Oh no, you will never pronounces those word, because your kids are you priority, therefore their health matters a lot to you.
You know what? If suddenly you want to really take a break and stop everything, trust me that decision will not make them happy at home as they count on you do stake care of so many things for them. Now they would have to do themselves all that you were doing while some of them were unwinding or just relaxing.
I remember the story of my cousin Vanessa and her husband Calum. On maternity leave, Vanessa was filling a form regarding her daughter’s christening, and when it came to write down her profession she put administrative assistant. Upon noticing that, her other half stricken it out and replaced it with stay at home mom instead, which enraged her.
As she continued narrating, I came to realize that Vanessa had not a good opinion about stay at home moms, which prompted me to ask her that question and her answer confirmed my thoughts. In her views when moms do that they are not well seen by our society consequently that is not something that is valued. Therefore she did not seen herself dabbing in that at the end of her maternity leave. So, she would hire a nanny to look over their child or put him in a daycare so that to resume work when the time would come.
To gain people’s respect, you have to start by respecting yourself first. Yes you do put your career back to put your family in the first place, but that does not mean that you are their slave, their maid, no. Make them say please, thank you for what you do for them. Do not let them take you for granted, as nothing here below is for granted. When they do not say those words, kindly say something is missing or a word is missing, a sentence is missing. And in case they do not want to and if for instance it is your husband think, twice before doing what he ask you to do for him. Yes. give it many thoughts to see if this time you accept that lack of politeness or you do not.
Also, as I have mentioned it in a previous post, take care of yourself., of how you look. Avoid spending the whole day in faded t-shirts and shorts, with your hair undone. No. Make yourself pretty, I am not saying to put on a ton of makeup as if you were doing a photo shoot for Vogue magazine. No It is not what I mean.
Yes hubby and particularly your kids have stolen your heart since their birth, and you love them to death, but putting some limits, some barriers are important, and politeness, love , respect, care to name a few are those limits. Do not always excuse the bad way they talk to you, their bad tone when addressing you; no, be firm as in certain conditions firmness should be immediately implemented.
Certainly you are a wife, a mom; however, you also have your own life, you are first and foremost a woman before wearing all your other hats and there is nothing wrong with that. Do not get me wrong, I am not telling you to neglect your family.
Ladies, my stay at home ladies, I want you to know that you worth a lot, and for you to be proud of yourselves, and never let anybody belittling you.
