Married people, or common-law couples, mainly who have kids have less time together which is quite understandable, but remember that you guys are also a wife/ a husband and as such you have the task to take care of your relationship with your life partner.
Kids, even more young ones, need us so much. We have to spend time with them to not only to socialize them, getting them ready to be a proud member of the society, but also we have to spend quality time with them, showing them how to behave and handle good and bad situations while pouring out love on them.
Also because of house chores and running errands, we have less and less time. On top of that work takes a major part of our daily time because most of us spend eight hours at our workplace Monday to Friday. Yes , it is five days a week or even more for some of you; you wake up to go to work so if when we are back home we are busy with house cleaning and cooking, then with the kids. Tell me how much time is left for your sweet-heart? two hours, one hour, thirty minutes, none?
Hence the need to create special times with him\her. All of that left us with very little time to take care of our relationship with our significant other.
Way too many people are in the situation where they are not a wife anymore, not an husband anymore as they get caught in that routine. They are just trapped in the situations where they just wake –up, take care of the children, get them ready for the daycare and/ or school, cook breakfast, feed the small ones, make sure they finish their plates, get their lunch box ready, then drive them to the daycare, and drop them to school before heading straight to work.
When coming back home the same scenario continues. You or your partner has to pick up kids from school, make sure they have a cleaning up, cook them dinner, and then, help with homework, which takes hours.
After that, it is the time to change the little ones in their pajamas, read them a book, sing a song and kiss them good night. By the time they join their partner, they are so tired that they may go directly to bed.
Now imagine that is the situation that keeps repeating on a daily basis during weeks, months, and years.
This way there is almost no time, without exaggerating, to do romantic outings and situations to maintain the flame alive.
Pay attention not to bring your kids as the main topic of the conversation, because if it is that way, you guys are not getting connected to each other, as a results, you miss your goal which was finding out each other and enjoying each other.
With such a schedule, I know it is hard finding time for romanticism, but do not forget that, if you are here today, it is because of love so keep it alive.
So what to do?
If the kids cannot stay at home alone because they are young, hire someone to babysit, or have a friend or family coming over, or take them at their place to look over them while you are on a date with your husband/wife.
I cannot stress enough to have quality time with your life partner, the love between the two of you should be nurtured, and as everything in life love is not granted. Even in a married relationship you have to keep working on it Because it is something dynamic. It is like a flower that needs water to grow and be beautiful, otherwise it may die.
Not because that your wife will not be unfaithful because she swore not too, and she will not live you. Although that it is not something foreseeable, that is unfortunately a possibility. So in order to keep your marriage glowing, take time away from kids and work to retrieve the old time magic.
You should show that you care as much as before, if even more, that you want all the best and good things for him/her and that you also do all possible to achieve them. In addition you do everything to make her/him feel important and special to our eyes. Routine is something that weaken relationship, do not let it install in your marriage, break it up.
The options out there so many. You can go out to get dinner, it does not mean to be a fancy restaurant, although having dinner in a fancy restaurant is a good option as well, who will turn it down?,
I what I enjoy doing with hubby is to go have breakfast, that reminds me the time when we started dating. So no need to say much about how much we both enjoy it. Yes, moments like that make you find out and enjoy things you love doing. And at the same time they strengthen the relationship. In the same context, you both give yourselves the chance to discover new center of interests, new hobbies, new activities, things to do together from time to time or when you give yourself time to do it.
In a special moment, you can go to a restaurant an make them custom your meal, I guess your significant other will truly appreciate it.
Furthermore, spending time together makes you appreciate the other person even more, it is like we see him/ her under new lenses, we find him/ her attractive, we talk, smile to each other and touch each other, the connection between the two of you is good. It is so good that is influence your sexual relationship. Intimacy can happen more often, or can become as enjoyable as before, and even more who knows. This is a very good point, as you know guys that sexual enjoyment, intimacy, plays a predominant role in a marriage.
Spending quality time with your significant other only will strengthen your relationship even more. Give yourselves the opportunity to enjoy each other again!
