Four phrases or sentences should not come out of your mouth regardless of your stage of anger, of disappointment, so you would better watch your mouth for those crappy sentences not to go out as they can put you in deep trouble.
First thing not to say
The age gap between you and your other half is something that you knew about since the beginning, so you knew well that he is the oldest of the two of you; and you were fine with it. But why now should you remind him his age quite so often? Don’t you think he knows that better than you? By doing so, you will end up making him feel like an elderly. It is known that a large number of elderly think they are not important anymore and they may will get replaced soon by a younger person, a younger lover, a younger husband. So please stop saying that to him; stop putting him down. Calling him my old man, or old man is not that cool; he has a birth name so use it then. Don’t make him feel that old.
He could feel like he is not desirable, not sexy anymore which could even make him wonder whether his other half still finds him attractive. In his minds, he might think that in bed things are not as good as before which might raise doubt about his manhood and how you see him now. Insecurity is something that can grow quite rapidly if you keep talking in those terms about him. It is true that all his life he has had high self esteem, but when someone is getting old, there are chances that things may change. Seeing younger guys without age spots, without winkles in the corner of their mouth or around their eyes, and also with no diseases that aging makes people prone to, makes the wish to shed off some years or even a decade could be quite vivid. In those moments, starting to compare oneself to them and think they look better than oneself can make confidence level get low.
Second thing not to do
Saying bad words or speaking ill of your husband’s mother in the midst of arguments is not something to do. Some of you may be tempted to badmouthing your mother in law when your spouse has said something offensive. In return, because you feel so hurt, you want him to suffer as well. His love and adoration for his mom makes him cherish her a lot therefore what a sweet revenge to talk in those terms about her, right? Your revenge, you will get it for sure, but for how long time? Won’t it shortly turn bitter. Believe me, you can have a hard time reconciling with hubby after talking in those terms about his mom. By pity sake, keep his mom out of your marital arguments. By the way, she does not have anything to do with your conflicts, deal with them without dirtying her name.
Jack left his wife, Jane, after he knew that Jane badmouthed his mom’s name with one of her friend. Here is how that trouble started. Since Jane and Vanessa were friends for more than two years, Jane felt so comfortable with her to confess that her other half who is now so well educated and who speaks English and French fluently comes from a very humble background. His mom was very poor and was a street food seller. After finding out about the gossip, Jack had a terrible argument with his wife gathered some of his belongings and waved her good bye. Four months have passed by and they are still living apart. Some people will not hesitate to reveal your secrets to everybody when your friendship is no longer, so beware of what you are saying to those so called friends
Third thing not to do
Talking about his bed performance the third thing to refrain from. Beware ladies, this is a very, very delicate topic therefore a lot of tact is necessary in order to address it.
Avoid saying oh I have not enjoyed it yet, or I feel like the ejaculation was only one minute after the penetration. Even though, you are speaking the truth, there is a special way to tackle that topic. I am not saying no to address that topic at all, and stay frustrated sexually talking; no. This is not what I mean. Things will be even worse when he will know that you talk about that with your friends, and they know hat he does not perform as well as before. Things like that should stay between you and him, unless the person you confess it to has a genuine interest in helping your marriage, otherwise that person could call another friend and gossip about it, and in a matter of days, or even hours friends, relatives already know about the matter.
Fourth thing to avoid as much as possible
Do not talk about his breath in bad terms. Pinching your nose, visibly holding your breath, or saying your breath stinks, can be so devastating! Who want to hear that his breath is not fresh? It is something that makes people feel ashamed. Sometimes it is not about lack of oral hygiene, rather it can be something more serious. Some people when aging care less about themselves, and instead of flossing and brushing their teeth two to three times a day, they will do it once only, or they may even skip a day, thinking nobody will notice it. Which is wrong; only babies can skip brushing their teeth for a few days and it won’t go noticed. The surrounding of any grown man or woman who lacks on that, will notice it right away.
Talking about bad breath can be very embarrassing for the involved person therefore finding the appropriate way to let him know that more teeth care is needed is crucial. Guys some words, some sentences, some statements once out have deadly effects. A meaningful relationship takes years to build as get to know each other to build trust doesn’t occur overnight. In a matter of seconds what took years to be built can be destroyed, so remember to think twice before talking about his halitosis.
Guys I know that in the heat of the moment, crapping things that you do not even mean can get out of your mouth. But whatever sorry you are afterward, they cannot be taking back and the harm has been already done. To avoid that, do not talk about your partner in the negative terms about the 4 above mentioned topics.
