I know you really want to go on vacation in the Caribbean while your husband wants to go on vacation in India. Your significant other’s wish is to buy an apartment as this way the strata will be in charge of removing the snow in winter and mowing the lawn in spring and summer, but you only swear about buying a single family house where you will have your own garden. You want to name your first born Delaney while your significant other wants him to be Jean. A well-known good way for you guys to move ahead is through compromise.
It is understandable for the two of you to want to have different things, to have different views and opinions as you come from different backgrounds, with different families values. As you life under the same roof both of you have the duty to make things work.
Not having what you wish, what you dream of during weeks, months, years can become frustrating; with time when frustration accumulates and reaches a certain threshold there will be negative fallout for your relationship. Indeed frustration can be very bad for your family as it undermines it.
Frustration can lead to anger and anger may in turn result in resentment. I am pretty sure that you do not want to live with a frustrated wife. Also living with an angry husband most of the times it is not what you wish; it is definitely not what you want.
Guys as you can see in the past you had different opinions, different ways of viewing certain things but that did not prevent you go forward in life. That was possible because you love each other and also because you do things, on a daily basis, to support and strengthen that love.
I am not asking you to be the one who compromises all the time as for things to work in your marriage there should be a balance. I remember that my friend Lynn told me that despite she wanted badly to give names with special meanings to her first daughter, she let her husband chose her name. When she got pregnant with her second daughter she told him now this is my time to name her; he only said babe go ahead.
Likewise, Biannca from The Prince Family, you tube said her husband, Damien, was the one who picked the name of their two boys, while it was her who named their two princesses. Those two cases are a good example of how to compromise since at the end both couples are happy.
Sometimes compromise in your current and or past situations will not only make you grow as a couple but will also make you do advancements in many aspects of your life, later.
The fact that you make compromise demonstrates your respect for your wife or your husband, and how much his or her happiness is wanted. In fact, this time, as you want your significant other to be happy, you let him/her go ahead with the plans he/her made for your family which shows you pay respect to his opinions, his views. Believe me; it is important for him/her to see that sign of respect.
In return, as it mentioned above, you should also compromise as it does not occur only in one direction; you have to make sacrifices for your other half . You see how you are happy because the compromise benefits you. As you already enjoy this feelings, please it is his/her turn to taste it as well.
Compromise should be done in big as well as in small things. If you are the one who makes big sacrifices while he/she only makes sacrifices for only small things, that is not good. For some people compromising for little things only and can even not be perceived as a real compromise; it is just unfair. Why do you have the right to have your life partner compromise on big things while you only do so for little things. Fairness should exist in your relation.
Guys at some points in your relationship or your marriage, you will have to make compromise so that your significant other feels loved, respected and valued. In return, you should also expect the same thing from your husband or wife as this way a balance will be created for your relation to grow happy and healthy.
I remember that my friend Paul , his partner, his sister , my sister Joanna, and I were going out to have fun in a club. While in the car I heard them, I mean Paul and his woman, having what I could call an argument. Paul’s partner complained, she asked it was her all the times who should be the one to make compromises. According to her, she is the one who have to give up on her plans. I remember clearly that she said why can’t I win? Paul only replied that it was not going to be your way, and that was it. For more she vented, he did not compromise.
Maybe the sacrifice is regarding some projects which have an utmost importance for you, or it is just about some of your core values, your beliefs. Those things are harder to give up. I guess your significant other knows you well so that he or she knows what is very important for you, and he or she also knows about your system of beliefs so he or she reluctant to ask that kind of compromise. Sacrificing your values is quite hard and can take a great deal of time as you can feel that you are losing who you are, you have been asked to be another person now.
My life partner always talk about making compromises as a good thing, something that can make our relationship and communication become easier. If you are in a relationship and you always have what you want exactly always when you want it, so let me tell you that you do not compromise, your partner is the person that does it for you.
In the long run you put your relationship in danger. This does not talk good about you as it only shows your level of selfishness and how little you value your so called significant other.
Sometimes both you and your other half sacrifice something for the sake of your relation well-being, this proves how both of you are willing to make things work. In other words both of you give in and find a middle ground.
