In the first post of this year I have a big question for you guys : are you willing to pay the price to make things better in your relationship? I am curious to know your answers; without further ado, let’s begin guys.
You say you want things to be better between your other half and you, right? But are you willing to do things to really make it happen? When I am talking about that, I am talking about everything necessary in order to make it work between the two of you? Will you do that ? I am putting emphasis on it because there is a price to pay to achieve that.
How long will you try to do that? Will you give it a try for only a few hours, a few days and then rapidly get discouraged and give up on it like many peoples do every year for new year resolutions.
Actually, few days before the new year eve, a lot of people decide to ditch some bad habits for some good new ones; in this regard, the resolution can be health related, like eating more veggies, more fruits, less salt, less sugar, and less processed foods. For others it is just to try to go to the gym at least two times a week; also some folks take the decisions to read at least one book every month.
Be proactive. Take matters into your hands.
First off, make a list of things you would like to change or to completely erase from your life (if that can happen). Do not just think about keeping everything in your head; instead, go get a pen and a piece of paper and start to write them down. As you may have to revise them as time go by and also maybe modify some of them. This way you can also keep track of it easily.
When done with that, what to do next it is to identify things that can prevent you from achieving your goals. As you know yourself very well and you also know your other half that should not be so difficult if you are not blind about yourself. I am saying that because I know people who are so blind about themselves, about their flaws that I will hesitate to ask them to do that since they will not see those flaws are flaws, and consequently they may need to work on them for the sake of their marriage.
Lack of patience
Not everybody is patient; and depending on your personality being patient can be even tougher. Me I am a bit patience, but some people like my sister Amanda, are not patient at all; therefore that have a negative effect on reaching your goals.
Remember that Rome was not built in one day. Lot of things mainly good things can take time to come to realization, to come to fruition. So if you want things to move in the right direction be patient because things do not usually comes overnight.
So you will have to work on your patience level to be able to meet your goals.
Frustration
Frustration is something that can sabotage everything. When you feel so frustrated you may want to give up. But do not do it because everything can also be over. When you attempt to change the situation and you do not have the expected results you can get frustrated. If you do not work on your frustration you can become bothered by situations that usually will not have that ill effect on you. In that same vein, feelings of frustration can lead to anger, and even to hostility. Becoming hostile to your significant other can make your situation worse guys. Also frustration can causing more stress in your life.
Stress level
Sure all you want is having a healthier marital situation because there are stuff that you do not like in it. Those things can be either some of your flaws or things that are not considered as flaws but you want to get rid of. Also the matter can be things that sweetie says or does. You do want those things to go out of your life, but the fact that you realize what it will cost you to make the change bring your stress level quite high. This happen because you feel you cannot really handle that, you do not have enough resources for that.
If you experience too much stress, it may be beneficial to disconnect yourself from that for a little bit. The least thing you want to happen is having anxiety attacks. If you know that music soothes you, listen to music, but not the heavy kind of ones. Going for a work can help as well. Also some stuff like gardening can help you relax if you are already into that. Just get your minds out of it for some times.
Everything comes with some sweat
Yes everything is not coming to you very easily; I wish it can work this way as well, but unfortunately things do not work this way. My parents often say the easy way it is not the way to go as it is not good. Therefore guys prepare yourself mentally and also physically, depending on what you want to achieve, to make your wishes and desires come true, to change the situation. Put all your efforts in it!
You may have to stay late at night not only for one day but for many days in a row to work on your goals because during the day you are busy working, and after work, you have to do stuff around the house, afterwards it is the time to take care of your children and spend time with your spouse.
Will you do it? When you had a hard day at work, and you are so tired and so sleepy, will you stay up until very late night hours?
This is an example of sweating for what you want.
Guys this year you want to make changes in your marriage or in your relationship, that is a good thing. But do you really know what that imply? Do you know that you may have to do some sacrifices for that to occur? If your answer is yes go ahead and whatever hardship you find in the road stay motivated because in the end the results may really worth it.
