Oh my God! Hubby is almost always using his mobile that I can say that he barely puts it down without any exaggeration. Of course he is obliged to put it down when taking a bath, as the water can potentially damage it and he will be obliged to get another one.
When sleeping he is not in his hand but, surely it will be found somewhere in the bed, which I dislike. As a matter of fact, I do not like any phone near me in bed because of the radiation; I already spend my days surrounded by magnetic waves, that may have harmful effects on my body therefore my nights free of them; health does matter to me a lot. As a consequence I am not happy each time I found it on the bed., or unexpectedly roll over it.
Saying that hubby is always using his phone is not an exaggeration, I am just trying to show you guys how serious is the matter.
Whether at home, when grocery shopping while waiting for is turn to pay, or even at work; my other half almost uses his phone almost everywhere. It is not uncommon to find him playing with the phone at church: a worship place that he should go only to pray. Most of the time, he reads messages, replies to them, reads online newspapers, and plays games; he even puts his alarm on to go play online games so that it will not miss a game. Can you believe that! His life is in the virtual world, ignoring people around, in my opinion.
Being all the time with his cellphone in his hand can be quite disappointing and annoying. That gives the feeling that either you do not exist or you do not mean too much to his eyes. With time arise a feeling of frustration, and we may end up thinking about ending the relationship since we are not fully satisfied in the relationship and we are fed up about that situation.
There is nothing more disturbing being in the middle of an important conversation about our future and being interrupt by his mobile. This not only interrupts the conversation but it also makes my frustration grow bigger. Also the fact that he stops conversing with me to read and reply to his messages which he could have done later.
Also, imagine that the same thing happens again while being intimate, this completely destroy the spark of the romantic moment.
At this extent you can image how just a device, the cellphone, can negatively affect a relationship, a marriage. Very frequently, he is having a look at his phone as if he does not want to miss any text messages. All that means, again in my opinion, what we were doing or talking about is not of importance, and annoying. Therefore he feels bored. That lead me to ask to myself, whether am I a boring person is my conversation low level? In addition, this is a signal of lack of politeness.
Hubby has a bad habit of going to the washroom with the cellphone. I do not know what he does while inside he perhaps sends messages, or just plays online games. Thus he can stay there for a good while.Half an hour. I wonder how can he stay inside the bathroom for that long. Sometimes, not seeing him coming out of the bathroom, I have either to knock on the door , or getting close to the washroom to ask if everything is all right. You never know, he may have a malaise while inside. Many people do not feel well while using the washroom. By the way, that reminds me that one of my sisters who got sick while being in the washroom, and as mom never saw her coming out, she opened the bathroom door and found her on the floor unconscious.
Sometimes, I have to remind him that I also need to use the washroom that he is not the only one who lives in the house and use the toilet therefore he has to get out of for me to get in. It is not good to monopolize it like that for no good reason. Because I know that he is just hiding inside to use his phone.
By the way, a toilet is not the adequate place to use a phone. Toilet are always dirty no matter how well you clean it. After using the mobile in the toilet he will put it on the dinning table without prior sanitation.
When going out to eat I dislike that he is still using his phone. This moment is supposed to be our moment without any disturbance, as it ins not everyday that we eat in restaurants.
In the beginning, I acted as if that did not bother me thinking that he will realize that he is addicted to his mobile. Then I started to give him some bad looks every time he does that, hmm, he either does not see them or just ignore them.
Sometimes I do the same thing too, in order for him to see how unpleasant it is. When I do that he totally dislike it and criticize me. tackling the topic every so often has bettered the situation although he has not totally lost this habit, from time to time he sill spend to much time in the bathroom.
Realizing that being silent does not work, I asked him how will he feel and react if I do the same thing.
Acquiring a bad habit is easy, but loosing can be quite difficult. However, it is not impossible either. Honey must learn how to do that and I know that will take sometime. First off, explain him or her how that is not healthy for the marriage and even his work , imagine if his boss catches him while using the mobile that often what can happen. But for that to work, he also has to realize that he has a problem, and secondly for him to want to fix it..
Slow down with the mobile to spend quality time with your spouse!
